The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz.

Lessons from The Book : The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz.


Lets set free our self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. I have learnt from the Four Agreements:

Be Impeccable with Your Word

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Impeccable means “without sin” and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself.  It means not speaking against yourself, to yourself or to others.  It means not rejecting yourself.  To be impeccable means to take responsibility for yourself, to not participate in “the blame game.”

Regarding the word, the rules of “action-reaction” apply.  What you put out energetically will return to you.  Proper use of the word creates proper use of energy, putting out love and gratitude perpetuates the same in the universe.  The converse is also true.

Impeccability starts at home.  Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others.  This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially ones that create fear instead of love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

We take things personally when we agree with what others have said.  If we didn’t agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally.  If we did not care about what others think about us, their words or behavior could not affect us.

Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you!  Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream. Our personal “Book of Law” and belief system makes us feel safe.  When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others.  If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared.  They need to defend their point of view.  Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this?

Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling.  We believe we know their point of view, their dream.  We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences and have nothing to do with what others think and feel.

We make the assumption that everybody judges us, abuses us, victimizes us, and blames us the way we do ourselves.  As a result we reject ourselves before others have the chance to reject us.  When we think this way, it becomes difficult to be ourselves in the world.

Take action and be clear to others about what you want or do not want; do not gossip and make assumptions about things others tell you.  Respect other points of view and avoid arguing just to be right.  Respect yourself and be honest with yourself.  Stop expecting the people around you to know what is in your head.
Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Doing your best means enjoying the action without expecting a reward.  The pleasure comes from doing what you like in life and having fun, not from how much you get paid.  Enjoy the path traveled and the destination will take care of itself.

Living in the moment and releasing the past helps us to do the best we can in the moment.  It allows us to be fully alive right now, enjoying what is present, not worrying about the past or the future.

Have patience with yourself.  Take action.  Practice forgiveness.  If you do your best always, transformation will happen as a matter of course.

A beautiful read with so many life lessons.  Share your wisdom taken from this book.

Happy reading.. Nams

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Things you should not refrigerate

Refrigerators may seem as if they’re a safe haven for all things perishable, but did you know there are some foods that are better off being left out? It’s true! Brush up on your food storage know-how and vow to never throw these eight staples in the fridge again.

Foods You Should Never Refrigerate

1. Honey

Honey has a naturally thick consistency, and keeping it in a cool fridge will only thicken it up even further. The low temperatures will cause it to crystallize, making it nearly impossible to squeeze out of that cute, bear-shaped bottle. Honey will keep indefinitely in your pantry, so feel free leave it “bee.”

2. Bread

Although bread has a relatively short shelf life, keeping it in the fridge won’t do much to help its longevity. Your bread will dry out quickly in the refrigerator, so it’s best to freeze what you know you won’t eat within five days. The freezer will help retain some of the moisture while the fridge does just the opposite.

3. Potatoes

Whether you intend to mash ‘em, bake ‘em, or fry ‘em, avoid keeping your spuds in the fridge. The moisture can trigger early decay, so it’s best to stow them away in a cool, dark and dry area. Wrap up the potatoes in a paper bag to increase their shelf life even further.

4. Onions

As long as they’re unpeeled, onions should stay out in the open to promote optimal airflow. If they’re peeled, a covered, airtight container in the fridge will keep them fresh. Be wary of keeping them anywhere near your potatoes, though – they produce moisture and gas that can cause your onions to rot more quickly.

5. Coffee

Coffee is known for its absorbent properties; so unless you want your morning cup of joe to have the essence of your peeled onions, keep it out of the fridge. Coffee grounds and beans are both best kept in a sealed container in the pantry. While the beans do make a nice ornamental display in your kitchen, the flavor will be compromised if they’re stored in glass containers on your countertop.

6. Melons

Stored in the refrigerator, melons lose much of their nutritional value. By leaving them at room temperature, you’ll be rewarding yourself with a host of beneficial antioxidants and nutrients. The melons will also decay more quickly in the refrigerator, so the benefit of keeping them on the counter is twofold.

7. Bananas

If you’re one of many people who enjoy the sweet, strong taste of a ripe banana, you’ll want to keep your next bunch out of the fridge. The cool temperatures will prevent your bananas from ripening, so they’ll just remain in their current state (this is especially bad news if they’re still green).

8. Oils

Oils are best kept in a cool, dry area. When stored in the fridge, they take on a hard, buttery consistency. They take a while to return to their original liquid form, so it’s best to keep them out of the fridge to ensure they’re always recipe-ready.



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What the Ancients Knew – India

India is one of the oldest and richest civilizations in the world. It is home to the world’s first planned cities, where every house had its own bathroom and toilet five thousand years ago. The Ancient Indians have not only given us yoga, meditation and complementary medicines, but they have furthered our knowledge of science, maths — and invented Chaturanga, which became the game of chess.

According to Albert Einstein, they “taught us how to count”, as they invented the numbers 1-9 and ‘zero’, without which there would be no computers or digital age. Unfairly we call this system of counting Arabic numbers — a misplaced credit. Two thousand years ago the Indians pioneered plastic surgery, reconstructing the noses and ears on the faces of people who had been disfigured through punishment or warfare. They performed eye operations such as cataract removal and invented inoculation to protect their population from Smallpox, saving thousands of lives.

This video is intriguing and informative. Hosted by Jack Turner and Published by Discovery Channel, 2007

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Speech by President Nelson Mandela at Diwali Celebrations

I found this beautiful speech  by President Nelson Mandela at Diwali Celebrations held at Durban City Hall on  3 November 1991.

As we celebrate, let us rememer all the values and teachings passed on to us. The essence of Diwali is rejoicing good over evil and sharing the light of love and friendship to whom we may meet.

Nelson Mandela’s speech:

Diwali brings back for me memories of days on Robben Island. Regularly at
this time of year when our Hindu friends the world over were preparing to
celebrate the Festival of Lights we would be visited by Hindu priests. I recall
Mr. Govender from Cape Town and Mr. Padyachee from Pretoria. They would come and
offer prayers wit us and bring with them parcels of sweetmeats. The authorities
were insistent that these parcels were only for believers in the Hindu faith.
Through our struggles were able to challenge the authorities on this narrow
conception and we insisted that all the embracing philosophies that Hinduism is
based on extended a hand to all of humanity. In this way I and my fellow
comrades such as Wilton Mkwai, Ahmed Kathrada, Ismail Ebrahim and many more
joined Billy Nair, Mac Maharaj, Issoo Chiba, George Naicker and others in
collectively marking this important celebration in the Hindu calendar and also
enjoying the offerings that were prepared at this time

It humbles me to be associated with a festival that goes back over 5000
years. I also feel privileged and proud that our country is blessed with so much
diversity and richness of cultures and traditions.

The Festival of Diwali and the history and significance that is a part of the
festival carries innumerable lessons for us all and I can refer to only a few.

We have been engaged in the battle against the forces of darkness along lines
similar in the Hindu scriptures. The policies of apartheid and its creator, the
National Party have inflicted serious damage on the country and its people.
Notwithstanding some apologies for this crime against humanity this party now
wants to project itself as the defenders of the peace and the guardians of
democracy. Today it is this party which wants to woo the Indian people into its

But let us remind ourselves of the historical role that the Indian community
has played in resisting every form of discrimination, inequality and oppression.
From the time of Gandhi, who enabled this community to create the first
democratic political organ in Africa by creating the Natal Indian Congress in
1894, this community has displayed consistent political wisdom and courage. From
the first mass actions during the passive resistance campaigns of 1913 to the
total rejection of the Asiatic Land Tenure and Indians Representation Act in
1946 to the gallant defiance campaign of 1952 an the defeat of the Nationalist
Party’s plan to repatriate Indians in the 1950’s the Indians have demonstrated
their oneness with all other oppressed South Africans.

But this tradition continued even during the worst years of repression when
the leadership of the congresses were forced into jail, exile or silence; they
still refused to accept the national Party chosen South African Indian Council
in 1962. This rejection was demonstrated time and again:

During the SAIC elections of 1981, during the Tri-Cameral elections of 1984
and during the elections of Management Committees and Local Affairs Committees
during the eighties. Generation after generation been the proud bearers of the
mantle of Ghandi and defenders of the rich political culture that Sathyagraha
introduced into the politics of this country.

This I can vouch for from my own personal development. I and my generation of
political activists owe a great debt to the Gandhian tradition of passive
resistance. It was this spirit which moved us in 1949 to formulate the programme
of action of the African National Congress Youth League. It is this spirit which
inspired us to launch the Defiance Campaign of 1952.

It is this unity in action ushered into our history by the Dadoo-Xuma-Naicker
Pact in 1947 which consolidated a political relationship and tradition which has
endured the trials of many decades since This is the substance of the congress
tradition: An unmovable commitment to non-racialism, to unity in action and to
safe-guarding the interests of every section of the oppressed community. It is
these years which created a comradeship among Yusuf Dadoo, Monty Naicker, Braam
Fischer, Oliver Tambo, Jimmy La Guma and many others.

We are poised to see through our long battle the forces of truth,
enlightenment and democracy triumph. Bu this is not going to come easily. It is
still a battle. This past weekend in Durban we were part of creating a patriotic
front which is intended to bring us all together to make one big push against
the forces of darkness that we have been confronting and struggle against for so

Justice, truth, integrity, humility, freedom, are values that the Hindu
scriptures like the scriptures of most other religions espouse. In the ANC we
have built on these values and through the contribution of the people in 1955 we
drew up the Freedom Charter which has acted as a beacon for us in our struggle
for non-racial democracy in South Africa. We have worked hard to build unity
among all the people of this country and for us to come together to build a
peaceful, tolerant and prosperous country. The ANC has been and will continue to
be a home for all freedom loving people not least of all our Indian brothers and
sisters. WE are committed to building bridges and helping to embrace all of
humanity under one umbrella and move forward in strength and confidence to a
better future. We believe that this is not different from what Hindu scriptures
have also been saying.

At this time of Diwali and as I light this sacred lamp I am aware of how this
lamp symbolises the triumph of:

Enlightenment over blind faith,
prosperity over
knowledge of ignorance,
good health and well being over disease
and ill health,
Freedom over bondage

In our struggle we will be celebrating this triumph together. But we have a
difficult road to walk before we can claim that victory for us all in this
country. The Indian community has always supported the cause of freedom.

Now more than ever before it will have to become more visible and in that way
recognised and acknowledged.

I am told by learned Hindu scholars hat as we light the lamp and also pray to
the Goddess Laxmi, we need to remember that from our position of well being and
prosperity that there are many who are less fortunate and deprived and that we
will have to work together to formulate ways of helping to respond to the
grinding poverty and desperation in the country.

At this time we also remember leaders and persons who gave their lives for
the cause of freedom. Now a we remember Swami Dayanand who was poisoned for his
convictions for a free and independent India and who died on Diwali day we
remember the many brave persons in our struggle who gave their lives for the
cause of freedom We remember Krish Rabillal, Ahmed Timol, Solomon Mahlangu and
thousands of others. Those lamps went out and in t heir place thousands more
lamps were lit for there to be freedom and peace in our land.

Friends, I feel deeply honoured to be with you at this time of Diwali. I will
always remember this festival which we religiously marked for many years on
Robben Island. In our struggle in this country there are many lessons that can
be drawn from the festival and the Epic The Ramayana which is closely associated
with the festival. We are on the verge of entering a new era in this country. We
have to light lamps of thanks giving the enlightenment as we go forward into the
future in peace and hope and prosperity.




Blessed Diwali friends. Let us continue to be be heroes & heroines by spreading the message of Joy, Love and Peace as the power of Light shines on.

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The Femininty Fair in support of Breast Cancer


October is INTERNATIONAL BREAST CANCER awareness month. According to the Cancer Association of South Africa, breast cancer is the most common cancer afflicting South African women.

In an effort to promote health with early detection, education, and to curb the scourge, THE GENESS FOUNDATION will be hosting the inaugural “Femininity Fair” on 25 October 2014 at The Venue, Melrose Arch, 11am to 2pm.

Led by Dr SHEENA GENESS, the foundation supports and establishes projects that respond to the critical development needs of humanity in the arena of Health, Education, Entrepreneurship and Sport in Africa.

A central theme of the Femininity Fair is, “Allowing Ladies to celebrate womanhood”. The fair will play host to over 200 guests and will provide a platform for women to celebrate a health initiative that will create awareness of breast cancer. Guests will also be given beauty and skincare tips and receive insight into sexual health and techniques to enhance their longevity. All this whilst indulging in a decadent 5 star lunch and being serenaded by the divine Natalie R.

The “Femininity Fair” aims to empower women to look after their health and well-being. The event will help create heightened awareness and provide women with a holistic approach to their health.

“The Femininity Fair will serve as an excellent platform to address breast cancer, and ultimately support government health care initiatives,” says Dr Sheena

Proceeds from the fair will be donated to the Breast Health Foundation at Helen Joseph Breast Cancer Clinic in Johannesburg. The centre is a breast care facility which promotes affordable care to patients with breast pathology at a provincial level. The centre provides a multidisciplinary, education orientated approach boasting high patient care with an excellent reputation for service delivery.

Cancer Facts

According to the World Health Organisation’s (WHO) latest statistics, 8.2 million people died of cancer in 2012. About 47,000 of these deaths occurred in South Africa where cancers of the lung, oesophagus, breast and prostrate are among the most common forms of cancer.

Keynote speakers at the event will include: Dr Carol Ann Benn (a leading breast surgeon and head of the Helen Joseph Breast Clinic), Dr Marisse Venter (plastic and reconstructive surgeon), Dr Reza Mia (aesthetics specialist), Gina Myers (a celebrity and national Elizabeth Arden makeup artist), Joan Ramagoshi (ex Miss SA and businesswoman), Sharon Gordan (founder of Lola Montez), Dr Pholile Mpofu (a leading Gauteng dermatologist), and Louise Turner of The Breast Health Foundation.

Dates and Venue

25th October 2014 at the Venue in Melrose Arch, 11am-2pm


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#PicAweek – Drakensberg Mountains, South Africa


The Drakensberg mountain range stretches the entire length of KwaZulu-Natal’s western boundary. With kilometers of unspoiled escarpment await the tourist who seeks to find serenity In nature.  As one of South Africa’s top attractions, The Drakensberg region offers scenic beauty, crisp mountain air, clear waters and a range of activities. The adventure activities include hiking trails, bird watching, game viewing, horse trails and safaris, guided tours, 4×4 trails, quad bikes, golfing, trout / fly fishing, white water rafting, rock climbing to mention but a few.

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The Master Cleanse to feeling great again.

The Master Cleanse was developed by Stanley Burroughs,  who published it initially in the 1940s, and revived it in 1976 in his books.

The Master Cleanse is a Juice Fast or also referred to as a liquid diet that provides a healthy amount of calories and nutrients specifically suited for weight loss and cleansing.

Stanley Burroughs once said: “I humbly and yet proudly offer it to you, confidant that you will receive vigorous good health from its use”

The Master Cleanse is such an easy method:

  1. First, squeeze fresh Lemon Juice.
  2. Then add Maple Syrup and Cayenne Pepper into Pure Water.
  3. Drink a minimum of six to 12 times throughout the day whenever one is hungry
  4. Drink herbal teas and
  5. Do the Salt Water Flush

master cleanse diet

  1. Three Phases to The Master Cleanse:
    1. Ease-In: 3 Days of Slowly removing processed foods from your diet.
    2. The Lemonade Diet: 10 Days to Lose Weight Fast, and Feel Great At Last
    3. Ease-Out3 Days of slowly eating more and more complex foods
  • Naturally Non-caffeinated Herbal Teas (the only cheating allowed)
  • Remember to measure your body before, during and after the cleanse.
  • Journal or  document the process, emotions, challenges and triumphs during the Master Cleanse

    2 Important Tips to make sure you do the Salt Water Flush right

    1. Make sure you don’t used iodized table salt. NON-iodized sea salt is essential.
    2. The Salt Water Flush MUST be done on an empty stomach.


    Shake the mixture well and move to the sink. Somehow, by watching myself, I can manage to drink the whole liter in one try, spilling very little. This too is a challenge in itself, especially once your stomach has become very small from taking no solids. Chances are, you will feel full halfway through, so just keep going. Stopping only makes you taste the salt, and will activate your gag reflex. If you throw up most of the mixture, you will not have success.

  •  Proponents claim that the diet detoxifies the body and removes excess fat. There is no scientific evidence that the diet removes any toxins, or that it achieves anything beyond temporary weight loss. Though unlikely to be harmful over the short term it can be harmful over the long term. Short term side effects include fatigue, nausea, dizziness,  and dehydration, while long term harm includes loss of muscle mass.

The Cleanse and Detox is a Whole Body experience. You’ll be more aware, proud, and empowered with your ability to be confident, committed in your new healthy lifestyle. Not to mention the famous “Cleansers” High most notably touted by Dr. Wayne Dyer, who proclaims:

I feel great and taken weight off around my middle. It’s just kinda disappeared. I have lost 14 or 15 pounds I have more energy. I am doing yoga again. I am back walking. I was having real issues with my back. Joint pains and things like that seem to have all gone. I have a new kind of clarity as well.

Happy Cleansing everyone :) Keep me posted on your experience


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The new face of Angel by Thierry Mugler

Georgia May Jagger, the new face for Thierry Mugler perfume, Angel, was launched at an exclusive event in Sandton  on the 1 October 2014.


Guests were welcomed by an avant-garde Angel on stilts and lead through a blue lit tunnel into a Thierry Mugler fragrance universe. It felt like I was transported into a magical place.

Tamara Dey, the Mugler Muse for the night, took guests on   journey of the senses through 3 different spaces, each showcasing a facet of the fragrance. From a heavenly 200 suspended balloon display, to playful ways and childlike sweets in a carnival lit space and finally ending in the voluptuous area dripping in mirror balls. The new AD campaign was revealed to guests, who partied with JHB’s elite, dined with the decadence of oysters and experienced food artfully displayed and paired with the fragrance notes.

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Georgia May Jagger ushers in a new era in the ANGEL legend, 19 years after her mother Jerry Hall was the face of the scent

A dazzling rising star in the world of fashion and beauty, Georgia May Jagger is instantly recognizable by her full pout, already an acknowledged style icon at just 22 years old.

Angel” by Thierry Mugler RRSP EDP from R685. Available at selected major retailers.

Some pics from this beautiful event in collaboration with 4 Elements Media:

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#PhotoAweek -Namib Sand Sea


The Namib Sand Sea, located in Southwest Africa,  is a unique coastal fog desert encompassing a diverse array of large, shifting dunes.  It is the only coastal desert in the world that includes extensive dune fields influenced by fog. The Namib Sand Sea was officially proclaimed a World heritage site and It is the second of its kind in Namibia. The Namib is almost completely uninhabited by humans except for several small settlements and indigenous pastoral groups

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Join Sunday Circles for Inspiring minds

sunday circle

A networking, artistry and social event for progressive thinkers and active minds in Johannesburg. Book your seat for the Sunday Circle and be in the room with future leaders and inspired minds.

An opportunity to network with inspirational speakers and like-minded people. Each week there will be guest speakers, good music and entertainment. A great line up always and a fantastic way to spend a Sunday afternoon learning and networking.

There will be a great line up at each event. Regular speakers include:

  • Dr Richie
  • Phakamile Mzimela
  • Kagiso Msimango
  • Timothy Maurice Webster

The dates and venues for the Sunday Circle events until the end of the year are as follows:

5 Oct – Cantare at Montecasino – tickets R150

26 Oct – Pretoria State Theatre –  tickets from R150

2 Nov – Cantare at Montecasino – tickets R150

30 Nov – Pretoria State Theatre  – tickets from R150

7 Dec – Cantare at Montecasino – tickets R150

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International Inspiring Womens Network Celebrates Women

Yesterday I attended the IIWN Spring event at the Michaelangelo Hotel in Johannesburg.

It was sheer indulgence for the senses. A decadent lunch with chocolate in abundance, an array of beautiful flowers and models in dresses made from flowers, a range of inspiring women who shared their stories, a dance fusion , lovely exhibitors and
lots of awesome prizes for the guests.

The models of these beautiful dresses, designed by Sorelli, included Anni King designer Joanna Chen and Bianca Makeksky from Hello Joburg Mag.

Anusha Singh has created a wonderful and inspiring platform for women to share their stories and messages of inspiration to empower other women.

More of the event in pics:

















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