The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz.

Lessons from The Book : The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz.


Lets set free our self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. I have learnt from the Four Agreements:

Be Impeccable with Your Word

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Impeccable means “without sin” and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself.  It means not speaking against yourself, to yourself or to others.  It means not rejecting yourself.  To be impeccable means to take responsibility for yourself, to not participate in “the blame game.”

Regarding the word, the rules of “action-reaction” apply.  What you put out energetically will return to you.  Proper use of the word creates proper use of energy, putting out love and gratitude perpetuates the same in the universe.  The converse is also true.

Impeccability starts at home.  Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others.  This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially ones that create fear instead of love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

We take things personally when we agree with what others have said.  If we didn’t agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally.  If we did not care about what others think about us, their words or behavior could not affect us.

Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you!  Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream. Our personal “Book of Law” and belief system makes us feel safe.  When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others.  If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared.  They need to defend their point of view.  Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this?

Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling.  We believe we know their point of view, their dream.  We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences and have nothing to do with what others think and feel.

We make the assumption that everybody judges us, abuses us, victimizes us, and blames us the way we do ourselves.  As a result we reject ourselves before others have the chance to reject us.  When we think this way, it becomes difficult to be ourselves in the world.

Take action and be clear to others about what you want or do not want; do not gossip and make assumptions about things others tell you.  Respect other points of view and avoid arguing just to be right.  Respect yourself and be honest with yourself.  Stop expecting the people around you to know what is in your head.
Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Doing your best means enjoying the action without expecting a reward.  The pleasure comes from doing what you like in life and having fun, not from how much you get paid.  Enjoy the path traveled and the destination will take care of itself.

Living in the moment and releasing the past helps us to do the best we can in the moment.  It allows us to be fully alive right now, enjoying what is present, not worrying about the past or the future.

Have patience with yourself.  Take action.  Practice forgiveness.  If you do your best always, transformation will happen as a matter of course.

A beautiful read with so many life lessons.  Share your wisdom taken from this book.

Happy reading.. Nams

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The Femininty Fair in support of Breast Cancer


October is INTERNATIONAL BREAST CANCER awareness month. According to the Cancer Association of South Africa, breast cancer is the most common cancer afflicting South African women.

In an effort to promote health with early detection, education, and to curb the scourge, THE GENESS FOUNDATION will be hosting the inaugural “Femininity Fair” on 25 October 2014 at The Venue, Melrose Arch, 11am to 2pm.

Led by Dr SHEENA GENESS, the foundation supports and establishes projects that respond to the critical development needs of humanity in the arena of Health, Education, Entrepreneurship and Sport in Africa.

A central theme of the Femininity Fair is, “Allowing Ladies to celebrate womanhood”. The fair will play host to over 200 guests and will provide a platform for women to celebrate a health initiative that will create awareness of breast cancer. Guests will also be given beauty and skincare tips and receive insight into sexual health and techniques to enhance their longevity. All this whilst indulging in a decadent 5 star lunch and being serenaded by the divine Natalie R.

The “Femininity Fair” aims to empower women to look after their health and well-being. The event will help create heightened awareness and provide women with a holistic approach to their health.

“The Femininity Fair will serve as an excellent platform to address breast cancer, and ultimately support government health care initiatives,” says Dr Sheena

Proceeds from the fair will be donated to the Breast Health Foundation at Helen Joseph Breast Cancer Clinic in Johannesburg. The centre is a breast care facility which promotes affordable care to patients with breast pathology at a provincial level. The centre provides a multidisciplinary, education orientated approach boasting high patient care with an excellent reputation for service delivery.

Cancer Facts

According to the World Health Organisation’s (WHO) latest statistics, 8.2 million people died of cancer in 2012. About 47,000 of these deaths occurred in South Africa where cancers of the lung, oesophagus, breast and prostrate are among the most common forms of cancer.

Keynote speakers at the event will include: Dr Carol Ann Benn (a leading breast surgeon and head of the Helen Joseph Breast Clinic), Dr Marisse Venter (plastic and reconstructive surgeon), Dr Reza Mia (aesthetics specialist), Gina Myers (a celebrity and national Elizabeth Arden makeup artist), Joan Ramagoshi (ex Miss SA and businesswoman), Sharon Gordan (founder of Lola Montez), Dr Pholile Mpofu (a leading Gauteng dermatologist), and Louise Turner of The Breast Health Foundation.

Dates and Venue

25th October 2014 at the Venue in Melrose Arch, 11am-2pm


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#PicAweek – Drakensberg Mountains, South Africa


The Drakensberg mountain range stretches the entire length of KwaZulu-Natal’s western boundary. With kilometers of unspoiled escarpment await the tourist who seeks to find serenity In nature.  As one of South Africa’s top attractions, The Drakensberg region offers scenic beauty, crisp mountain air, clear waters and a range of activities. The adventure activities include hiking trails, bird watching, game viewing, horse trails and safaris, guided tours, 4×4 trails, quad bikes, golfing, trout / fly fishing, white water rafting, rock climbing to mention but a few.

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The Master Cleanse to feeling great again.

The Master Cleanse was developed by Stanley Burroughs,  who published it initially in the 1940s, and revived it in 1976 in his books.

The Master Cleanse is a Juice Fast or also referred to as a liquid diet that provides a healthy amount of calories and nutrients specifically suited for weight loss and cleansing.

Stanley Burroughs once said: “I humbly and yet proudly offer it to you, confidant that you will receive vigorous good health from its use”

The Master Cleanse is such an easy method:

  1. First, squeeze fresh Lemon Juice.
  2. Then add Maple Syrup and Cayenne Pepper into Pure Water.
  3. Drink a minimum of six to 12 times throughout the day whenever one is hungry
  4. Drink herbal teas and
  5. Do the Salt Water Flush

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  1. Three Phases to The Master Cleanse:
    1. Ease-In: 3 Days of Slowly removing processed foods from your diet.
    2. The Lemonade Diet: 10 Days to Lose Weight Fast, and Feel Great At Last
    3. Ease-Out3 Days of slowly eating more and more complex foods
  • Naturally Non-caffeinated Herbal Teas (the only cheating allowed)
  • Remember to measure your body before, during and after the cleanse.
  • Journal or  document the process, emotions, challenges and triumphs during the Master Cleanse

    2 Important Tips to make sure you do the Salt Water Flush right

    1. Make sure you don’t used iodized table salt. NON-iodized sea salt is essential.
    2. The Salt Water Flush MUST be done on an empty stomach.


    Shake the mixture well and move to the sink. Somehow, by watching myself, I can manage to drink the whole liter in one try, spilling very little. This too is a challenge in itself, especially once your stomach has become very small from taking no solids. Chances are, you will feel full halfway through, so just keep going. Stopping only makes you taste the salt, and will activate your gag reflex. If you throw up most of the mixture, you will not have success.

  •  Proponents claim that the diet detoxifies the body and removes excess fat. There is no scientific evidence that the diet removes any toxins, or that it achieves anything beyond temporary weight loss. Though unlikely to be harmful over the short term it can be harmful over the long term. Short term side effects include fatigue, nausea, dizziness,  and dehydration, while long term harm includes loss of muscle mass.

The Cleanse and Detox is a Whole Body experience. You’ll be more aware, proud, and empowered with your ability to be confident, committed in your new healthy lifestyle. Not to mention the famous “Cleansers” High most notably touted by Dr. Wayne Dyer, who proclaims:

I feel great and taken weight off around my middle. It’s just kinda disappeared. I have lost 14 or 15 pounds I have more energy. I am doing yoga again. I am back walking. I was having real issues with my back. Joint pains and things like that seem to have all gone. I have a new kind of clarity as well.

Happy Cleansing everyone :) Keep me posted on your experience


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The new face of Angel by Thierry Mugler

Georgia May Jagger, the new face for Thierry Mugler perfume, Angel, was launched at an exclusive event in Sandton  on the 1 October 2014.


Guests were welcomed by an avant-garde Angel on stilts and lead through a blue lit tunnel into a Thierry Mugler fragrance universe. It felt like I was transported into a magical place.

Tamara Dey, the Mugler Muse for the night, took guests on   journey of the senses through 3 different spaces, each showcasing a facet of the fragrance. From a heavenly 200 suspended balloon display, to playful ways and childlike sweets in a carnival lit space and finally ending in the voluptuous area dripping in mirror balls. The new AD campaign was revealed to guests, who partied with JHB’s elite, dined with the decadence of oysters and experienced food artfully displayed and paired with the fragrance notes.

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Georgia May Jagger ushers in a new era in the ANGEL legend, 19 years after her mother Jerry Hall was the face of the scent

A dazzling rising star in the world of fashion and beauty, Georgia May Jagger is instantly recognizable by her full pout, already an acknowledged style icon at just 22 years old.

Angel” by Thierry Mugler RRSP EDP from R685. Available at selected major retailers.

Some pics from this beautiful event in collaboration with 4 Elements Media:

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#PhotoAweek -Namib Sand Sea


The Namib Sand Sea, located in Southwest Africa,  is a unique coastal fog desert encompassing a diverse array of large, shifting dunes.  It is the only coastal desert in the world that includes extensive dune fields influenced by fog. The Namib Sand Sea was officially proclaimed a World heritage site and It is the second of its kind in Namibia. The Namib is almost completely uninhabited by humans except for several small settlements and indigenous pastoral groups

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Join Sunday Circles for Inspiring minds

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A networking, artistry and social event for progressive thinkers and active minds in Johannesburg. Book your seat for the Sunday Circle and be in the room with future leaders and inspired minds.

An opportunity to network with inspirational speakers and like-minded people. Each week there will be guest speakers, good music and entertainment. A great line up always and a fantastic way to spend a Sunday afternoon learning and networking.

There will be a great line up at each event. Regular speakers include:

  • Dr Richie
  • Phakamile Mzimela
  • Kagiso Msimango
  • Timothy Maurice Webster

The dates and venues for the Sunday Circle events until the end of the year are as follows:

5 Oct – Cantare at Montecasino – tickets R150

26 Oct – Pretoria State Theatre –  tickets from R150

2 Nov – Cantare at Montecasino – tickets R150

30 Nov – Pretoria State Theatre  – tickets from R150

7 Dec – Cantare at Montecasino – tickets R150

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International Inspiring Womens Network Celebrates Women

Yesterday I attended the IIWN Spring event at the Michaelangelo Hotel in Johannesburg.

It was sheer indulgence for the senses. A decadent lunch with chocolate in abundance, an array of beautiful flowers and models in dresses made from flowers, a range of inspiring women who shared their stories, a dance fusion , lovely exhibitors and
lots of awesome prizes for the guests.

The models of these beautiful dresses, designed by Sorelli, included Anni King designer Joanna Chen and Bianca Makeksky from Hello Joburg Mag.

Anusha Singh has created a wonderful and inspiring platform for women to share their stories and messages of inspiration to empower other women.

More of the event in pics:

















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Tourism Ireland celebrates World Tourism Day

To celebrate World Tourism Day, in association with GreenpopSA , Tourism Ireland gave back to the community and environment by literally digging deep and planting trees at Witkoppen Primary School on 23rd September 2014.

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The objective of this tree planting initiative was to give back to the communities at large and assist them in reaping environmental, economic and social benefits as a result as this year, the theme for international Tourism Day is ‘’tourism and community development’’. Greenpop is a social enterprise that runs urban greening and reforestation projects in sub-Saharan Africa.

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Greenpop plants trees and strives to see inspiration instead of gloom in the green space and create innovative and sustainable solutions. By educating people on best practice tree care, monitoring trees and working together to leave a lasting legacy, Greenpop says green living is fun.  The excited students at Witkoppen Primary School rolled up their sleeves and dug holes, planted trees and made sure their new treasures are well looked after. The students, who are from disadvantaged backgrounds, proposed ways in which they can look after trees by watering them three times a week and throughout the school holidays with “grey water” or recycled water brought from home.  They are committed to starting an Eco Group which is a club within the school which will educate the pupils about recycling and environmental issues.


As Ireland is known as ‘’The Emerald Isle – the land that boasts 40 shades of green’’,  it appropriate and considered it a privilege to be a part of this greening initiative.

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It was a pleasure to watch the children’s faces light up as they participated in the  fun activities planned and in planting trees to beautify their surroundings as well.

Some pics of the day:

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What Heritage Day in South Africa means to me

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Heritage means that I have a tremendous history behind me that enables me to offer my country lessons I have learnt as an Indian born in South Africa.

I am a part of what has made this country great, which is a mixture of many nationalities and religions. I have a meaningful upbringing as an Indian, with values of community, love, compassion and humility instilled in me.

Let us celebrate our culture and the diversity of our beliefs and traditions. South Africa as a nation belongs to all its people.

National Braai Day is in recognition of the South African culinary tradition of holding braai’s in their homes, communities and gatherings. It signifies a unifying force amongst our people.

Knowing the richness of my heritage helps me to be the best I can be. Be proud as South Africans, as we are powerful as a nation in solidarity of love, hope and peace. Enjoy a united Heritage Day this 24 September 2014.

What does Heritage Day mean to you?

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#PhotoAweek – The Hemisfèric in Spain


The Hemisfèric is the largest hall in Spain to contain three systems projecting onto a concave screen of 900 square metres:

  • Large-format cinema, IMAX Dome.
  • Digital 3D screen measures: rectangle about 12×6 meters.
  • Digital projections. Astronomical representations and entertainment shows

It was inaugurated in 1998 and was the first building in the City of Arts and Sciences to open its doors to the public. The Hemisfèric is a spectacular construction designed by Santiago Calatrava, with an ovoid roof over 100 metres long that contains in its interior the large sphere that constitutes the projection room.

This is one attraction in Spain which is well worth a visit to.

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