When Things Don’t Turn Out How I’ve Expected or Planned

Hopes and dreams as a young girl of a life filled with love, children, a caring husband and success.

That’s was me.

I remember very few happy moments of my childhood. One being of my dad buying us friday treats and me being the excited little girl who waited eagerly at the window to watch him walk up the pathway with Simba chips in his hands. The joy in simple pleasures.

Another being the carefree child who played outdoors with my brother’s. Riding bikes, flying kites and climbing trees. My dad made us feel brave and like we could do anything.

I also recall a few of the painful memorie. Memories of an abusive father, who turned to alcohol almost every day. It was dreadful to hear the words, ” dad is coming home” I remember the beatings for the smallest mistakes like breaking a cup or watering nail polish. Even as a teenager in high school I was subjected to a belting where it left me in pain and my body bared the scars. It got so bad that I prayed for God to take him away from us. The abuse my mum suffered both verbally and physically was unbearable to watch as a child .

The most question I often asked was, why didn’t she leave. Being a school teacher, she should have known better.

All I wanted for my life was to find love, have a loving family and live happily ever after. Quite the fairytale. I never asked for anything else.

The naive me thought I was going to marry the first person I loved or dated. Boy did I have a lot of learning to do. The love I wanted found its way to me and by the age of 21 I got married and I promise you, I was the happiest bride.

The happiest bride because I had found love and because I was out of my dad’s house. I no longer had to endure his now verbal abuse.

My mum eventually divorced my dad and he passed away in his early 50’s . If believe the shock of divorce and a broken heart left him a broken man.

My fairytale married life was beautiful. We worked really hard as a couple to build businesses and to build a really beautiful home. We travelled often and enjoyed the many blessings life gave us. My twins were born 2 years later after marriage and became my life.

This beautiful life fell apart suddenly. Without notice, without warning. It was ripped apart. We divorced after 12 years of marriage and this event changed my life forever. The life I planned, hoped for and envisioned was over.

Depression took over and I stopped believing in God. I blamed God for turning my world upside down.

Today after 12 years of being divorced, I still look back and the many unanswered questions leave me feeling sad and disappointed.

Life has been good and life has been really tough. As a single mother, I had to deal with my depression and also put on a brave face for my children. I have failed in many areas but I have also triumphed in raising two beautiful humans.

I now believe God has his plan and I walk with his grace and mercy. One day at a time is my mantra.

There are many like me, who have been through similar trials. I salute single mums. You are strength personified.

Life has not turned out as I planned and each day brings its own troubles and blessings. I believe it’s important to recognise the emotions we go through and to deal with it , release it and heal.

Recognise what makes you sad , angry, disappointed, scared and upset. Write it down , acknowledge the emotions then forgive yourself and others . Release this by handing it over to God or burning it.

I still believe in love and all things magical. My inspiration comes from my life story. If I can make a positive difference in at least one life, then I have done well.

People in our lives play different roles and I have found that no one truly knows me. I still yearn for that love i dreamt of. I’m human after all. It would be so good to have that one person but for now If I need to have a heart to heart with anyone, I go to Him.

God will walk with us , if we allow him in.

I wish you enough. 🙏 Enough love ❤️ enough peace🌺

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Places to see in the world

Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.

Our world is filled with amazing people, sights , attractions and a variety of foods. In this life I want to travel the world seeing God’s creation in all its splendour.

Have you been to any one of these stunning places ?

Which other attractions would you add to this list

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Driving pleasure with the Isuzu D-Max Double Cab Bakkie

In 1979 the legendary KB range was introduced in South Africa for the first time. The range has since been updated to the D-Max range.

I had the pleasure of driving the D-MAX 300 4X4 AUTO and after having owned the previous KB 250 Double Cab, I am thoroughly impressed driving this bakkie.

The D-max is easily identified by the new chrome grille which makes a bold statement. The rugged look makes it a favourite choice of vehicle, if one is looking  mix of comfort, styling and a workhorse. The spacious interior also makes the D-Mmax a good family vehicle.

I have been asked if this bakkie is difficult to drive as a woman. Definitely yes!

I am in no way a motoring fundi, but rather a car fanatic who enjoys driving and experiencing new vehicles in the market. The Isuzu D-Max has my vote 🙂



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REVIV your wellness

I am pretty much an open minded person, who has tried a range of alternate wellness therapies and products from matcha tea to Yoga. When I first discovered REVIV, the skeptic in me asked many questions and then I had to try it out tho to see for myself.

After a few recent months of travel and feeling less energetic, my body was complaining. I listened and decided I needed some tlc.

I visited REVIV in Johannesburg and Sayed -Mia , the CEO advised me to take their signature treatment , the Megaboost. Megaboost, contains a high dose of vitamin C, minerals, antioxidants and electrolytes, is aimed at boosting the immune system, detoxifying the body, increasing strength and energy levels, minimising stress and preventing cold and flu-like symptoms. Likewise, the Megaboost treatment is ideal for those who will be travelling this festive season as it assists with combating jet lag.

I enjoyed a relaxing 30 – 40mins in their modern , comfy rooms, whilst the IV was administered via a drip, by a nurse.

That afternoon I felt the boost in energy and had so much of it that I didnt sleep much. The next night tho, I slept like a baby and It had to have been in my system for about 2 weeks or more as I felt less stressed, less lethargic and more energetic. It definitely had a positive impact on my wellness.

What is REVIV ?

REVIV is the leading global wellness provider of signature IV nutrient therapies and booster shots.
REVIV offers an exclusive experience, specialising in IV therapy and booster shots. The treatments administered through IV feed vitamins, minerals, electrolytes, amino acids and anti-oxidants directly into the blood stream, ensuring that one absorbs 100% of what the various treatments have to offer.
Sayed Mia- CEO, says “We are excited and proud to bring the different treatments through three of our branches in Johannesburg, Durban and Cape Town. Our professional staff are passionate about helping clients look and feel their absolute best.”
With 2018 drawing to an end, that sluggish, fatigued feeling is becoming all too familiar and the dreaded ‘year-end syndrome’ starts kicking in. REVIV offers great solutions to re-energise and replenish, ensuring that much needed boost to carry you through the last stretch of the year.
REVIV’s Vitaglow Anti-Aging IV therapy is also available as a solution to anti-aging, dry skin, hair and nails, ensuring it brings out the ‘summer glow’ in our clientele this holiday season. The aging process is inevitable, it is also associated with various metabolic changes, such as the decline of Glutathione levels (antioxidant that detoxifies the body and promotes cellular repair). The Vitaglow Anti-Aging treatment delivers a high dose of Glutathione and Vitamin C which improves the appearance of hair, skin and nails. Looking and feeling fabulous has never been this easy and pain free.
REVIV offers other phenomenal treatments such Hydromax– which is best for optimal athletic performance and dehydration, Ultraviv– best for recovery from illness, hangovers and seasonal allergies and lastly, The Royal Flush the best recommended treatment as it combines the benefits of Ultraviv, Megaboost and Vitaglow in one IV.
The treatments assist with restoring and refreshing one’s body from the inside out, allowing you to feel vibrant, energised and youthful.

For more information visit : http://revivme.com/

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Renew your mind

If you can control a man’s thinking you do not have to worry about his action. When you determine what a man shall think you do not have to concern yourself about what he will do.

If you make a man feel that he is inferior, you do not have to compel him to accept an inferior status, for he will seek it himself. If you make a man think that he is justly an outcast, you do not have to order him to the back door. He will go without being told; and if there is no back door, his very nature will demand one

Quote from : The Mis-Education of the Negro

The very reason why we need to renew our minds and thinking everyday.

It Is possible. What we want out of life is possible
We can have more than what we currently have.

Get out of your mind, get rid of the old thinking.

Be inspired to be more and achieve more out of life.

See your goals and say It’s Possible!


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Thailand updated Visa exemptions

Bangkok, 13 November, 2018 – The Thai government recently approved the exemption of the visa-on-arrival fee for citizens of 20 countries.

From 15 November, 2018, to 13 January, 2019, citizens of Andora, Bulgaria, Bhutan, China including Taiwan, Cyprus, Ethiopia, Fiji, India, Kazakhstan, Latvia, Lithuania, Maldives, Malta, Mauritius, Papua New Guinea, Romania, San Marino, Saudi Arabia, Ukraine and Uzbekistan will be exempted from the 2,000 Baht visa-on-arrival fee for the purpose of touring in Thailand not more than 15 days.


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Tuesday motivation


Happy good morning


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British Airways direct flights from London to Durban, South Africa

Fly from London Heathrow (LHR) to Durban (DUR) with British Airways, via Johannesburg with Comair.

From 29 October 2018 you can enjoy our non-stop direct service, three times a week. The east coast city sits on a golden mile of sand, warmed by the Indian Ocean and frequented by dolphins. Combine British Airways’ award-winning service with the warmth of South Africa’s sunny city.

Durban is Africa’s busiest port and South Africa’s third largest city with a mesmeric overtone of African culture mixed with Indian and colonial influence.

Discover the beauty of the KwaZulu-Natal region, defining Durban as a destination for culture and adventure. Durban has vast nature reserves and heritage sites across the region, so hire a car and drive out to the Drakensburg mountains. Whether you want authentic Zulu delicacies, Indian curries, iced rooibos tea or craft beer, find it in Durbans’ melting pot. This multi-cultural city has a lively downtown and more than its fair share of beach bums enjoying the 320 days of sunshine a year


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Culinary flair at Southern Sun Hyde Park hotel

Summertime in Jozi is perfect for sundowners in a spectacular setting, and there are few as perfect as Southern Sun Hyde Park Hotel’s pool deck.

To celebrate the new season, warm summer evenings and highveld sunsets, the hotel’s popular Island Bar has revamped its menu to add some culinary flair to what is already a popular destination for Jozi’s trendy crowd.

Southern Sun Hyde Park Hotel is located in Sandton’s most exclusive suburbs, features beautiful views from the breath-taking pool deck and is a trending spot to ease into the weekend, with weekly Friday Sundowner (https://www.tsogosun.com/southern-sun-hyde-park-sandton/offers/friday-sundowner) sessions featuring top local and international DJs playing the best in House and Deep House.

Grant van der Riet, Executive Chef of Southern Sun Hyde Park Hotel, whose culinary philosophy is ‘Life is too short for a bad meal’, says the new menu focuses on fresh, original and delicious flavours, and more than a touch of Italian finesse.

“Island Bar now offers something for every appetite with options for any time of the day or night, from tapas plates for sharing and tasting, to sushi, hunger busting burgers, light meals and desserts.”

The tapas selection offers a tempting array of vegetarian, meat and fish dishes featuring a fresh take on traditional favourites, including Crumbed mushrooms and garlic pesto aioli; Cheese & corn poppers; Mushroom & mozzarella arancini; Sriracha chicken wings; Grilled sliced sirloin with rosemary jus; Pulled beef taco served with pickled cabbage and sour cream; Lamb & coriander kofta; Braised pork taco; Chorizo and lentils ciabatta; and Crispy calamari, lemon & sriracha aioli.

Burger options for meat-lovers include the signature Hyde Park beef burger with a 200g patty topped with honey-glazed bacon and melted emmental cheese and the Hyde Park chicken burger with a 200g grilled breast with bacon and a blue cheese sauce. The Banting option promises to be a winner, offering a Carb-free beef or chicken burger with fresh Asian greens, tomato, gherkin, a 200g patty, mozzarella, pineapple chutney, and avocado.

The salad selection showcases Chef Grant’s culinary prowess, and includes Tian of feta with cherry tomatoes, grilled eggplant, arugula lettuce, carrot, cucumber, and toasted bruschetta; and a unique creation titled Beetroot of textures, with grilled baby beetroot, candy stripe beetroot, pickled golden beetroot, beetroot jelly, dried beetroot, and grape & walnut salad and goat’s cheese; and a Greek salad.

Not-to-be-skipped desserts include Chocalatissimo chocolate soufflé with a melted chocolate centre, vanilla ice-cream, shortbread crumble, and fresh berries; Chocolate torta with passion fruit served with mango sorbet, crumble and berry coulis; and Pistachio & matcha panna cotta.

We had the pleasure of tasting a few lovely dishes from this new menu. Highlights below:

Tsogo Sun has a portfolio of over 100 hotels and 13 casino and entertainment destinations throughout South Africa, Africa and the Seychelles.

For more details, visit https://www.tsogosun.com


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Champagne Day with Tsogo Sun

“Too much of anything is bad, but too much champagne is just right.

–F. Scott Fitzgerald

Vive le Champagne! It’s time to titillate your taste buds with the bubbly sparkle and glorious taste of Champagne in a not-to-be-missed celebration of Champagne Day 2018 with Tsogo Sun (https://www.tsogosun.com/offers/champagne-day).

On #ChampagneDay – Friday 19 October – and right through the weekend to Sunday 21 October, Champagne will flow from morning till late at select Tsogo Sun hotels where guests can enjoy their golden, white or pink bubbles in the ambience of one of Tsogo Sun’s beautiful venues in Johannesburg, Cape Town and Durban.

Celebrate Champagne Day at one of the following participating Tsogo Sun hotels:


· Sandton Sun

· InterContinental Johannesburg

· Holiday Inn Sandton – Rivonia

· Southern Sun Hyde Park

· SunSquare Montecasino

· Crowne Plaza Johannesburg

· InterContinental OR Tambo

Western Cape

· Southern Sun Cape Sun

· Southern Sun The Cullinan

· SunSquare Cape Town City Bowl

· Southern Sun Waterfront


· Southern Sun Elangeni & Maharani

· Suncoast Towers

· Beverly Hills

Tsogo Sun, which has earned a reputation as home to a wide selection of renowned Champagnes at the best wine list prices all year round, will be featuring four champagnes and one MCC (Méthode Cap Classique) on #ChampagneDay: Moet & Chandon Nectar at R595; Moet & Chandon Brut Imperial at R495; Veuve Clicquot Rosé at R735; and Veuve Clicquot Yellow Label at R545. The MCC is Graham Beck Bliss Demi Sec or Graham Beck Brut forR250 at a fantastic buy-one-bottle-get-one-free special offer.

Miguel Chan, Tsogo Sun Group Sommelier, says there’s always a good reason to enjoy champagne. “As the English novelist Charles Dickens once famously said, ‘“Champagne is one of the elegant extras in life.”

Gather friends, family and other Champagne lovers from Friday 19th until Sunday 21st October and join the celebrations at a Tsogo Sun venue. Share your

Share your Tsogo Sun #ChampagneDay experiences on social media using @TsogoSun #ChampagneDay #MUSTBEMOET. After all, #ChampagneDay is for sharing!

Tsogo Sun has a portfolio of over 100 hotels and 13 casino and entertainment destinations throughout South Africa, Africa and the Seychelles.

For more details, visit https://www.tsogosun.com

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